Couples Therapy

Maybe You’re Not Fighting All The Time—You’ve Simply Drifted Apart

Conflict isn’t always the main problem when your relationship is struggling. Perhaps you and your partner are dealing with roommate syndrome—you’re not arguing a lot, but you no longer feel head over heels in love. It’s like you’re just going through the motions.

 

Over time, work, child-rearing, and overwhelming schedules could have cut into your ability to spend time together. 

 

All couples have their ups and downs, but when your relationship issues start to impact every area of your life, that may be a sign that it’s worth seeing a counselor. You don’t have to do it alone. Here at 360 Therapy, we want to create a space for you and your partner to be who you truly are and help you regain the connection you had when you first met. 

 

 

 

Couples Often Rely On The Same Strategies That Got Them Stuck 

Relationships are hard. No two people will ever see eye to eye completely, so conflict is inevitable. This is why it’s important to focus on handling conflict well, not avoiding it. 

 

All too often, couples try to solve conflict with the same strategies that got them stuck to begin with. They keep relying on the same old patterns and getting the same old results.

For a relationship to stay strong and healthy, it’s essential to evolve and adapt instead of trying to keep things the way they are. 

 

Most Couples Simply Feel Too Busy And Overwhelmed To Prioritize Their Relationship

It’s hard to make time for each other, especially when you’re trying to juggle work, childcare, crazy schedules, and differences in communication styles. Most couples feel so overwhelmed with the demands of life that they feel like they have no room for therapy. 

 

But contrary to what you might think, counseling is not about adding more to your to-do list. It’s about giving you and your partner space to slow down and think out loud about your relationship. And with telehealth sessions, you can engage in therapy without inconveniencing yourselves or taking too much time out of your day.  

 

Couples Therapy Can Help You Solve Conflict And Remember Why You Fell In Love 

Let’s face it: you and your partner come from different backgrounds, have different experiences, and approach relationships with different expectations. It’s natural to disagree. That’s why it’s so important to learn to compromise and set aside defensive behaviors for the sake of the relationship. Couples therapy gives you a chance to come together as one and become teammates again.

 

At 360 Therapy, you’ll learn the skills needed to restore your relationship and find new, meaningful ways of connecting with each other. Most importantly, we want to help you remember why you picked each other in the first place and recapture the spark that made you fall in love. 

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What To Expect In Couples Counseling Sessions

Every couple is different, so we’ll adjust our approach depending on what works best for you. Generally speaking, we’ll see you and your partner together for the intake session and then meet with each of you individually so that we can understand your perspectives better.

 

From there, you’ll resume meeting with your couples therapist together for the remainder of counseling. 

 

In sessions with both of you, we’ll look at the intense feelings driving your emotional disconnection. We’ll dig down and explore the hurt that’s underneath your emotionally-charged responses to each other.

 

This way, you can both communicate all the different parts of yourself and avoid critical and defensive behaviors. You can learn to evolve together and develop a deeper, more empathetic connection with each other. 

 

Creating Your Couples Therapy Plan 

Our practice uses a wide range of healing methods to help couples. We do a lot of attachment work, exploring what kind of attachments make you and your partner feel secure and how your attachment styles may differ.

We also draw from the Gottman Method, an approach to counseling that evaluates the strengths and weaknesses in your marriage and gives you skills for overcoming hostility.

 

For couples struggling with communication issues, we often use Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT). The goal of EFT is to help you and your partner talk to each other using “I” statements (e.g., “When you don’t spend time with me after work, I feel unimportant”) instead of pointing fingers and resorting to “you” statements. 

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Ultimately, we believe that your relationship can become a source of stability, refuge, and fun again. Sometimes there is so much buildup of resentment in a relationship that it’s hard to remember how you felt when you first met. Our goal is to help you fall in love all over again, but this time with a more mature understanding of how to communicate and grow together. 

 

 

 

You May Have Some Questions About Marriage And Couples Therapy…

 

What if my partner doesn’t want to do therapy with me?

We get it. It’s frustrating when your partner doesn’t want to come with you. But in that case, why not start by yourself? You can be the agent of change if your partner’s not on board with therapy. Besides, if you benefit from therapy, maybe your partner will be more motivated to try it out. 

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How long will couples therapy last?

It really depends on your goals. Couples counseling may be short-term if you want to learn some practical communication skills. But if you want to experience deeper, more meaningful change in your relationship, the process may take longer.

 

Either way, it’s important for you and your partner to be patient with yourselves. Sometimes the most meaningful change of all takes a while to reach completion.

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What if we decide to separate?

First and foremost, what you do with your relationship is entirely up to you. If you decide to go your separate ways, we can help with that. Our practice offers separation and divorce counseling for couples who want to peacefully navigate breaking up and learn to co-parent more effectively. 

Let Us Help You Become Teammates Again

You and your partner are wired differently and come from different backgrounds. Therapy can help you bridge your differences and work together as a team. To begin the healing process, you can email us or call 305-396-6009.